Comments on: Frankie through the looking glass http://mayibefrankferrante.com/91 Wed, 28 Jul 2010 05:57:55 -0500 hourly 1 By: Michaela http://mayibefrankferrante.com/91/comment-page-1#comment-6 Michaela Tue, 01 Dec 2009 03:25:01 +0000 http://mayibefrankferrante.com/?p=91#comment-6 Have you considered, that maybe you put on weight, so that you could subconsciously keep people away? If you felt that you're not really worth anything on the inside, and if your outside wasn't so pretty, that allowed you to say: "I'm not lovable, because I'm fat!" In some way that gave you control, because you could lose the weight and be lovable - at least in your mind. But it also kept you from looking at your inside and having to face your worst fear: That there's nothing there that can be loved. This way you had an excuse, that in some way allowed you to be the victim - because the problem was other people being too shallow and judging you by your outside. But doing all these changes and confronting yourself, you've taken back control. So, if you can inspire others to do the same, isn't that alone a tangible proof that you're worth something? Have you considered, that maybe you put on weight, so that you could subconsciously keep people away? If you felt that you’re not really worth anything on the inside, and if your outside wasn’t so pretty, that allowed you to say: “I’m not lovable, because I’m fat!” In some way that gave you control, because you could lose the weight and be lovable – at least in your mind. But it also kept you from looking at your inside and having to face your worst fear: That there’s nothing there that can be loved. This way you had an excuse, that in some way allowed you to be the victim – because the problem was other people being too shallow and judging you by your outside.

But doing all these changes and confronting yourself, you’ve taken back control. So, if you can inspire others to do the same, isn’t that alone a tangible proof that you’re worth something?

]]> By: FreddyW http://mayibefrankferrante.com/91/comment-page-1#comment-3 FreddyW Wed, 25 Nov 2009 03:33:57 +0000 http://mayibefrankferrante.com/?p=91#comment-3 hey Frank! the blog is good thing to do, shows your process, reads pretty healthy to me, I find your blog honest, humble, and shows you have the courage to change... thanks for sharing your catharsis, without facing change we would never get to experience that amazing miralcle and wonder of the next adventure..I'm inspired! hey Frank! the blog is good thing to do, shows your process, reads pretty healthy to me, I find your blog honest, humble, and shows you have the courage to change… thanks for sharing your catharsis, without facing change we would never get to experience that amazing miralcle and wonder of the next adventure..I’m inspired!

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